Incompetent husband dealing with dirt, so he has to get wife in for chore (7,3,10)
I think it could be either:
loading the dishwasher
Can you help me to learn more?
'incompetent husband dealing' is the definition.
The answer and definition can be both acts as well as being singular nouns.
Maybe there's an association between them I don't understand?
'dirt so he has to get wife in for chore' is the wordplay.
I cannot really understand how this works, but
'he' could be 'ad' and 'ad' is present in the answer.
'in' is within the answer.
The remaining letters 'log' is a valid word which might be clued in a way I don't understand.
This explanation may well be incorrect...
'with' is the link.
(Another definition for loading that I've seen is " Placing weight on".)