Succeed when you fetch something to fetch a female (3,2,8)
I believe the answer is:
get it together
'succeed' is the definition.
(I've seen this before)
'fetch something to fetch a female' is the wordplay.
'fetch' becomes 'get' (synonyms).
'something' becomes 'it' (I've seen this in other clues).
'fetch' becomes 'get' (synonyms).
'a female' becomes 'her' (I've seen this before).
'get'+'it'+'to'+'get'+'her'='GET IT TOGETHER'
'when you' is the link.
I am not very happy about this link. Some or all of it may be part of another bit of the clue.
Can you help me to learn more?
(Other definitions for get it together that I've seen before include "succeed" , "Achieve one's full potential" .)