Untidy daughter is told what to do (10)

I believe the answer is:

disordered

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'untidy' is the definition.
(I've seen this before)

'daughter is told what to do' is the wordplay.
'daughter' becomes 'd' (genealogical abbreviation).
'told what to do' becomes 'ordered' (I can't explain this - if you can you should believe this answer much more).
'd'+'is'+'ordered'='DISORDERED'

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(Another definition for disordered that I've seen is " Confused, untidy".)

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